• Max Sullivan

Low Sex Drive or Libido?

Have you ever thought to yourself: “I wish we had sex more, but I just don’t feel like it” “Sex is too much work” or “I’m just as excited anymore”? Well you’re not alone. It happens a lot more often and too a lot more people than we all think. But sometimes, there are many things in our everyday lives that affect our sex drive without us noticing.

One of those things can be prescription medication. If you are prescribed any sort of medication, make an appointment to go see your doctor. Ask your doctor if there are any side effects for the medication that you are currently taking or your doctor can prescribe an alternative one (you shouldn’t stop or switch medication without consulting with your medical provider first).

Stress and fatigue are also reasons for low sex drive. If you’re working a lot of over time, you’re probably too tired and your body is just trying recover during your day off. Shift work or abnormal work hours (outside of the 7:00 am to 6:00 pm hours) can impact your circadian rhythm and your hormones. Sleep disorders related to shift work affects the quality of your sleep and you’re more prone to distractions. Some examples are: the sun is probably shining through the windows, your loved ones might be moving around in the house, or there might be construction or street traffic close to where you live.

Here are a few things that can help:

Exercise. Regular aerobic exercise and strength training is a great way to deal with stress, your mood and boost your libido. It’ll also increase your stamina and make sex less of an effort.

Communicate with your partner. Couples who learn to communicate in an open, honest way usually maintain a stronger emotional connection. Let your partner know what is going on at work so that they don’t feel like there is something wrong with the relationship. This might even encourage them to do more of the initiation.

Set aside time for intimacy. Scheduling sex into your calendar may seem contrived and boring. But making intimacy a priority can help put your sex drive back on track.

Add a little spice to your sex life. Try a different sexual position, a different time of day or a different location for sex. Ask your partner to spend more time on foreplay. If you and your partner are open to experimentation, sex toys and fantasy can help rekindle your sexual desire.

Talk to your doctor/therapist. Talk to your provider about the different effects of your current medication or about what you’ve been feeling. They might be able to start you on something else or change the dosage.

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